Marilyn W. Shumba Love vs. Hate Quotes
Always wish other people well, with genuine love. Jealousy comes in many forms, and it's ugly. - M.W.S.
A tough life should set you free and empower you to empower others, not grow your bitterness, but burst it at the very root; this is my love and wisdom to someone. - M.W.S.
If you got the man or the woman you felt you wanted or needed in life, but you are still struggling to be happy, even if you don’t believe in therapy, you should give your marriage a chance and try it anyways. Don’t use other reasons or other people as an excuse for the deficiency in your mental health or wellbeing needs. There is nothing wrong with seeing a doctor or counselor of the mind, the whole body can get sick, and everyone needs good learning and relearning from time to time. Everyone needs help from time to time. - M.W.S.
A spouse cannot take care of all your health needs, even if your spouse is a doctor, you should get your own doctor. Wisdom is to seek medical experts and burden your spouse less especially if you can afford some medical care. Staying sick physically and/or mentally when you got access to medical care is a bad excuse to burden family when there is a potential to get better. - M.W.S.
Hiding the full context to create a good self-image by cropping and clipping information is a crime to self, because innocent people don’t have to put an act to pretend to be someone else - M.W.S.
Mental illness will only get worse if you hate someone - M.W.S.
If you have not forgiven someone for all those years, you are in a real state of self-induced mental slavery - M.W.S.
One things about assumptions is that they are not always reality, but good judgment is first of all factual and true and a mirror of reality - M.W.S.
Using tears and self-pity to draw attention while brewing in great dislike or hate, it a self destructive misused talent. Good acting should be used to entertain, unite others, or distract evil and escape, but not to throw oneself in a web of misery and self torture while blaming someone for such self-inflicted psychological pain. - M.W.S.
The more you dislike or hate a humble person, the more you increase their blessings. - M.W.S.
Love is a free gift that can cure ones own soul, but hate is a dungeon of misery and self torture. - M.W.S.
The more you chain a person, the more you increase their talents and their wisdom. - M.W.S.
Formulating an ill-judgment of someone rooted from the lack of love of oneself can only make one become ill from their own conscience. One that loves themselves, is open to wise judgment and a beautiful way of life - M.W.S.
Just because a black woman expresses herself and speaks her mind, that doesn't mean she is not sweet, not kind, and compassionate. It's absolutely wrong to ignore wrong by anyone, and to be obsessed with looking for something bad in those that shine light and to begin to make up things just because you can't outshine their light. - M.W.S.
In our society - we have to speak truth, love and justice. - M.W.S.
To falsely accuse someone of your own sins is to imprison yourself while increasing their strength - M.W.S.
Hate can exacerbate or even cause sickness to one’s body and mind, but love can prevent, heal or slow down some illnesses - M.W.S.
How much you fail to love someone’s child, relative or friend defines incomplete or no love for that person, let alone if that person is your own loving spouse. True love is undiscriminating and whole. - M.W.S.
It is a sad sight when a person has a spouse that does not forgive and that lacks genuine or pure love for all children especially those joined by DNA into the marriage and family.
If you don't have the will to forgive and love unconditionally, you shouldn't care for relationships and marriage, but be at peace alone. If you are married, you have a duty and a calling to serve and unite your family no matter the circumstances because the Bible promises you will have many problems in marriage than when single, and not to get married, unless you are willing to remain obedient in it. - M.W.S.
You should not trouble your spouse about kindness and duty to love his/her child, because all that plotting creates an unhealthy family and marriage, unnecessary stress or divisions when your spouse has enough love to give to all kids and still keep you closest. - M.W.S.
I learned a lot about marriage by watching and listening before I even got into it. I examined and grew my own muscles of strength, love and forgiveness, diligently studied love, paid attention to many children, waiting for my spouse before I even got my spouse and stepson to love and care for. It’s better to grow wisdom because if you dive into marriage early if you are not ready, you might drown or corrupt your heart when tested. - M.W.S.
Don’t complete with your kids for love and attention of your spouse, for such actions just violates your spouses freedom and purity of love even especially towards you and it ruins their character and view of you in your presence or absence. A spouse is never deceived about your real character, even if they play along. Always put God first and do not intervene in someone else’s duty and calling. - M.W.S.
If you oppress your spouses children, your spouse will not love you as much as you want him/her to; you will be working against yourself even if your spouses doesn’t complain. If you want your spouse to love you better increase your life of all people around you and have nothing to do with negative or evil talk or deeds. - M.W.S.
The best way to build your spouse is not to build any bitterness, because bitterness blocks the vessels of free flowing love. - M.W.S.
If you pick and chose who you like and love, you are wasting a whole lot of productive time and energy making selections. - M.W.S.
It’s one thing to dislike a behavior, a person’s bad action(s), or to clear yourself from bad paths or conversations, but it is never healthy, wise, or productive to dislike or hate another human being. - M.W.S.
If you do evil, you are going to feel insecure and afraid even when nobody is chasing you. If you speak evil, you are going to think the people you talk about all the time are talking about you when they are free and doing other things. - M.W.S.
The biggest persons make changes and build without seeking rewards, that is why whatever they touch is blessed. - M.W.S.
A spouse knows when their spouse is harboring hints of grudges and unforgiveness, but genuine love does not only turn many heads and reigns with forgiveness, but it brings you closer to your spouse. - M.W.S.
If you want to reap good fruit, put everyone at a value greater than yours, and let your yes and no, and advice be of wisdom and not destruction. Your motives must be rooted in the greater good, even if not well received. - M.W.S.
If you let someone bully you, you are not doing them a favor or challenging their character for a needed change. You have to be firm about what is right in all circumstances that are allowable or at a good given time wisdom allows. - M.W.S.
Being younger doesn’t mean you should put up with mess, God sent younger people to clean up some mess made by older people. - M.W.S.
If you present with a spirit of anger, vengeance, jealousy, competition, comparison, pride, aggression, violence, self-destruction, or merely enter to cause trouble where there is peace, you are going to meet people that will not give you access no matter how old you are or what title you hold. God’s children do not bow down to any idols as objects or human. You have to present yourself to people of all ages and conditions, even children properly, everyone has rights and deserves respect. Barking and kicking will not work. - M.W.S.
Scheming or plotting to do something to someone just because you didn’t like their opinion or because they hurt your feelings is an immature way to live life and brings no joy or peace to the one doing it.- M.W.S.
Maturity involves controlling one’s own emotions and acting in love, justice and wisdom to the best of one’s ability in all circumstances, and inviting peace or peacemakers where there is unrest, for the purposes of decreasing chances of harm to all people. Once peace is established, the mature hold no grudges, but are always inviting and ready to share life. - M.W.S.
If you are angry or have negative thoughts all the time it’s psychological and/or you really are just ignoring God; seeking medical and/or spiritual counseling is a wise decision - M.W.S.
A powerful mental trick is never be fixated on trauma or the abuser(s) but who you are, loving yourself, other people and the creator. As for you, unlike the expected or statistics, your mind can be stronger than non-traumatized people, because you can create mental escapes from chains put on you and set yourself free by faith, and that is extraordinary. So 1) Be fixated on your goals in life, positive and healthy thoughts, and the strength that comes from overcoming and experiencing difficult situations, so that you do not develop victim mentality or get mentally stuck in a negative state by being fixated on trauma or who initiated it. 2) Focus on how beautifully and wonderfully made you are by the creator, and how you (or you will) keep achieving all your goals, unstoppable. 3) Never live a life of complaining, just achieve, at this point, you don’t have the luxury to dwell on negative thoughts, you are escaping being a victim, you must be a master of positive thoughts, and great achievements. 4) There is nothing wrong with silence, a survivor’s mind is powerful in the silence, you can master all your talents away from distractions 5) You can help trapped victims become victorious, you have a rare gift if you refuse to be trapped by victim mentality after ask all you been through. - M.W.S.